Xena’s Resilient Warrior Podcast

Growth Isn’t Comfortable, and That’s the Point

Everybody talks about healing — but most people are just surviving. They’re still clinging to their comfort zone, still avoiding accountability, and calling it “growth.” In this episode, I’m exposing the difference between real healing and emotional hiding.
Because healing isn’t cute. It’s not all affirmations and bubble baths. It’s sitting with your pain, owning your patterns, and breaking cycles that feel like home. This one’s for the people who say they want change, but don’t know where to start — or keep running when the mirror gets too clear.
💥 It’s time to stop sounding healed and start actually doing the work.
📚 Grab my books and take your healing to the next level:
I Hated Me Until I Fell in Love With Me (Self-Love Workbook):
👉 https://a.co/d/31wLx62
The Shadows That Broke (Memoir on Healing & Transformation):
👉 https://a.co/d/3INazwm

Overlooked, Undervalued, Unbothered: Turning Rejection Into Redirection

🎙️ Episode Description:
Ever felt like no one sees you until you blow up? In this episode, I’m speaking directly to the ones who feel overlooked, underestimated, and passed over. The truth is — rejection is often redirection. What if being overlooked is the universe’s way of telling you: “Focus up, it’s time to build without applause”?
This one is raw, real, and from the heart. Let’s talk about how to stay grounded, grow through silence, and stop begging for seats at tables that were never built for you.
✨ Tap into your power and keep rising.
📚 Want to dive deeper into healing and self-love? Grab my books below:
📕 I Hated Me Until I Fell in Love With Me: Mastering Self-Love Workbook
👉 https://a.co/d/0STfQtt
📘 The Shadows That Broke: A Story of Healing, Faith, Transformation
👉 https://a.co/d/eydkhbB
Don’t forget to follow, rate, and share this episode if it spoke to your spirit. Your breakthrough is closer than you think.

Start Over Without Shame: Rebuilding When Life Breaks You Down

Ever felt like starting over meant you failed? In this powerful episode, I’m breaking down the truth about fresh starts — and why they don’t mean you’re broken, weak, or behind.
I’ll share personal insights on how to rebuild when life doesn’t go as planned, how to release shame, and how to find strength in your reset season. Whether you’re restarting your business, your healing, your mindset, or your entire life — this message is for you.
You’ll walk away with:
   •   A renewed perspective on failure and redirection
   •   Practical tools to move forward without guilt
   •   Encouragement that reminds you: you’re not starting over from nothing — you’re starting from experience
You don’t have to break to begin again. Sometimes, the restart is the breakthrough.
Explore more tools, coaching, and resources at
👉 https://www.resilientwarrior.coach/

From Settling to Self-Worth: Learning to Choose Yourself

In this raw and transparent episode, I open up about my two-year experience in a polyamorous relationship where I constantly felt the need to prove I was the better option—driven by abandonment wounds and a history of chasing love just to feel chosen. I reflect on how these same patterns showed up in my life coaching business, where I once charged only $35 for work that held far greater value. This episode is about recognizing when you’ve been settling—in love, business, and self-worth—and deciding to reclaim your power.
If you’ve ever struggled with abandonment, low self-esteem, or undervaluing yourself, this conversation is for you.
Grab my books on Amazon:
   •   I Hated Me Until I Fell in Love with Me — https://a.co/d/0nCKoVo
   •   The Shadows That Broke — https://a.co/d/9gqwS4s

You Show Up for Everyone… But When’s the Last Time You Showed Up for You?

Are you always there for everyone else — but struggle to show up for yourself?
In this powerful episode, Life Coach Xena breaks down the mindset behind why so many people pour from an empty cup while making excuses when it comes to their own self-care. If you’ve ever felt burnt out, overlooked, or stuck in people-pleasing mode, this is your reminder: you deserve the same love you give out.
You’ll also walk away with one simple but transformational coaching strategy to start showing up for you, unapologetically.
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Ready to go deeper? Grab my book and start your self-love journey today:
Book 1: https://a.co/d/jgJvZvM
Book 2: https://a.co/d/eyCbFZi
These aren’t just books — they’re healing tools designed to help you break cycles, set boundaries, and grow stronger in your faith, your mindset, and your purpose.
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If this episode spoke to you, share it, tag me, and leave a review. Someone else out there needs this message — and you could be the reason they hear it.

I’m Not Confused—You’re Just Unhealed: Embracing My Growth Out Loud

In this episode, I confront the misconceptions and judgments I’ve faced while embracing my femininity and personal growth. Many label this journey as confusion, but in reality, it’s a testament to healing and self-discovery. I delve into how unhealed individuals often project their insecurities onto those who are evolving, and I share insights on navigating this path with faith and resilience. This is a call to anyone who’s ever been misunderstood while pursuing their authentic self—you’re not alone, and your journey is valid.
📚 Dive Deeper with My Books:
   •   I Hated Me Until I Fell in Love with Me: Mastering Self-Love Workbook
https://www.amazon.com/Hated-Until-fell-Love-Mastering/dp/B0DHT8H11R
   •   The Shadows That Broke: A Story of Healing, Faith, and Transformation
https://www.amazon.com/shadows-that-broke-healing-transformation/dp/B0DZTGWGX9

The Silent Trap: How Pride Holds You Back & How to Overcome It

Pride—it’s the invisible chain that keeps you stuck, blocking growth, healing, and true success. In this episode, I dive deep into the hidden ways pride holds you back, from sabotaging relationships to keeping you from reaching your full potential. I’ll break down what pride really is, the effects it has on your life, and practical steps to humble yourself without losing confidence. If you’ve ever struggled with admitting when you’re wrong, asking for help, or letting go of control, this episode is for you. Don’t let pride lead your life—learn how to break free today!
➡️ Listen now & start your transformation!
🌍 Visit https://resilientwarrior.coach for coaching, resources, and more motivation!

Breaking the Chains: Healing Trauma, Shedding the Armor

For years, I wore my pain like armor—literally. Dressing masculine wasn’t just a style choice; it was my protection, my shield from the trauma I never allowed myself to face. But healing doesn’t happen in hiding. In this episode, I open up about why I finally decided to seek help for this specific trauma and the power of therapy in breaking free from the chains of the past.
If you’ve ever felt like you had to hide your pain to survive, this episode is for you. It’s time to step into healing, find strength in vulnerability, and start rewriting your story.
Ready to take your healing deeper? My book I Hated Me Until I Fell in Love with Me: A Mastering Self-Love Workbook is here to guide you toward self-love and a positive mindset. Grab your copy today: [https://a.co/d/eh9mLoQ]
Let’s heal. Let’s grow. Let’s break free.

Choosing Herself: Leaving a Stagnant Marriage, Overcoming Domestic Violence, and Stepping Into Her Purpose

In this inspiring episode, I sit down with [Laurinda Andujar], a published author, nonprofit founder, and international speaker, who shares her journey of self-discovery, resilience, and success.
After years in a long-term marriage where she felt stagnant from always putting others first, she made the bold decision to prioritize herself and her dreams. Before that, she had endured a past relationship marked by domestic violence, which she bravely overcame. Now, she’s using her story to empower others.
Join us as we discuss:
✅ Why she left a marriage that no longer aligned with her growth
✅ How she overcame past domestic violence and rebuilt her confidence
✅ Her journey to becoming a published author and international speaker
✅ Lessons on self-worth, boundaries, and stepping into your purpose
If you’ve ever struggled with choosing yourself, this episode will remind you that your happiness matters.
🎙️ Connect with [Laurinda Andujar] on Instagram:
🔗 https://www.instagram.com/i_am_laurinda_andujar?igsh=ZnEydnJsaG02ejhn
🔗 Listen now & be inspired!

What We Don’t Change We Choose

In this powerful episode, I dive deep into the reality that what we don’t change, we are actively choosing—even when we don’t realize it. I share a personal journey of struggling with my emotions controlling me, the impact it had on my life, and the moment I decided to take back control.
If you’ve ever felt stuck in cycles of negativity, self-doubt, or emotional overwhelm, this episode is for you. I break down the key mindset shifts and strategies that helped me retrain my mind, take ownership of my emotions, and step into a life of intention and growth.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
   •   How your thoughts shape your reality and why awareness is the first step to change
   •   The dangers of staying in a comfort zone that no longer serves you
   •   Proven strategies to shift from reacting emotionally to responding with intention
   •   How to break free from self-sabotaging patterns and reclaim your power
Connect with me:
Visit my website at http://www.resilientwarrior.coach to learn more about my coaching, resources, and how we can work together to create lasting transformation.